I have often had a very unique with "Perfection", always seeking it and terrified when I can't achieve it. It would cripple me in my decision making when it came to taking risk on things like starting a business, for example when I always felt like I needed a brick and mortar location to conduct business. I also believed that I needed a state of the art website with all of the bells and whistles before I made a sale. I was listening to a podcast titled The 5AM MIRACLE with Jeff Sanders, which by the way is a really amazing podcast, and his guest was a gentlemen names Jon Acuff who wrote a book titled Finish: The gift of Done where he goes on to discuss how we let perfection or wanting to have a perfect situation stop us from achieving our goals. Reading this book was a life changer for me because I was always wondering what was holding me back from accomplishing some of my larger goals 3 things he discussed that stood out to me was:
I deal with this more often then not, I put out content such as a blog post, video or something that I think people would love and I get...No likes, comments, shares or any movement from the people who I thought I connected with on a much deeper level. Some of these people I was in the streets with, share some "real" moments with and some I even worked with for years. I said to myself, well at least my family will share or at least like my stuff so that I feel better and that my ego does not take a emotional blow to the gut. I think I did 2 of the 4 agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, I made assumptions and took it personal when I did not get the results from the people I "expected" to applaud me, not because my content is good, but for all the reasons I mentions above. It made me reflect on why I was doing what I was doing, was I doing it because it was needed or because I needed confirmation from my peers, family or whoever? Over the past few weeks I have been raving about Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss, which has an article recommendation,1000 True Fans by Kevin Kelly, which talks about how to develop a loyal following by simply focusing on obtaining 1000 True fans. Also in the book Tools of Titans was a story about an burlesque dancer who performs in a strip club next to other girls who go completely nude. Most would would assume that the burlesque dancer would lose the majority of the fans in the strip club by not stripping down, however she has one fan willing to pay her $50 to see her show. What I learned from both stories is that you should not try to please the masses (to which I have never really done) and focus on super serving your audience, even if it is an audience of 1. The truth is that most of us who are really out there creating art are or at least at some point feel like an impostor, also known as Impostor syndrome, which is state of mind where it is very difficult to internalize accomplishments, you always feel like someone will expose you. As you step into new and different domains and settings your comfort, knowledge, and experience is tested and you want some type of confirmation that you are on the right track, Those who have the luxury of having mentors to confirm your steps and accomplishments have an asset some of us struggle to attain if ever. I have found that not having a mentor is not a deal breaker and in some cases actually makes you more clever in obtaining advice, knowledge and confirmation that you are in fact making the correct steps and headed towards success. I use books, videos, podcast and articles to get my competitive edge back and I continue to look at my track record for my confirmation and focus on the one person who needs my content and as for my friends, family and others who do not think my content is not that great or even good, I want to thank you for confirming I am on the right track because if you (being so many different personalities) like it, its mass and I am not mass. I show up every week, sometimes I am on and sometimes I am not, but I ship.
If you ever get asked by a group of surfers to go on a "Surf Trip" to Baja California (Mexico) Please say yes
Our group leader Ron made all of the arrangements via Air B n B for a stay at a 4 level water front mansion equipped with all the fixings. Please see picture below, as it is very hard to put in words. I have been more willing to take trips to learn about business opportunities and ideas from abroad that have not yet been implemented. For example I went on a trip to Hamburg and Berlin for a class trip, on this trip I learned about Doner Kebabs and the bicycle rental systems. The trip was in 2013 and it was not to many years after the trip to Germany did I see companies in Santa Monica renting bicycles with the same type of system.
When we are in a foreign country we often encounter a resistance to explore the new and exciting environment and it is there that you will see the true gifts that the new land has to offer. For example we only had to go less than 5 miles to discover one of the best fishing villages I have ever seen with the absolute best Spider Crab I have ever eaten (my first as well) Please see pictures below. I also learned that they have an amazing Wine Country called the Valle De Guadalupe click here for an amazing video suggested by our friend Ron (also our guide and host) additionally we discovered a yellow fin tuna farm, a lobster village and got some amazing Tequila.
This also allowed me to live with 6 different personalities, dreams and aspirations. I had the opportunity to listen to someone else's ambitions besides my own. I also got to see how other Americans were living in Baja on the weekends and/or coming frequently and how you can purchase something called a "Sentri" Pass which expedites your border crossing. We surfed, ate well and bonded as a group. Take a trip it can really have an impact on your business as I am learning to relax and explore. SOME PICTURES FROM TRIP BELOW.
Duane Cofield over 15 years selling Cocaine from the age of 11 in the gritty streets of South East San Diego. I know the "game" in and out and very few can show me something new..I am now a business owner and professor of business a a few Southern California Universities. I am available for consulting, speaking, coaching. Please subscribe to the Official Drug Dealers to Businessmen You Tube Channel Here